I love you, Daddy

Parkinson’s Disease Diagnosis

Just prior to the 2018 national speech and language conference in Boston, the man who means the world to me, the one who sacrifices everything for his family, was formally diagnosed with Parkinson’s Disease. Learning about my father’s diagnosis of Parkinson’s Disease was a pivotal moment that deeply impacted our family’s journey.

For the last few years, my daddy has been losing weight and slowing down. We initially attributed it to old age, but in recent months, the hand tremors intensified, followed by a shuffling walk and breathy voice. Living in Illinois makes it hard to care for Pops, who still lives in the Rhode Island home I grew up in. I felt lost, sad, and guilty for not being closer to home. The 2018 ASHA conference was just what I needed, in a location where I could spend time with family. I could network with professionals closer to my dad, educating myself on his care and hopefully finding the best.”

Nanette Cote and her father at a hockey game

Background and Training

I’ve been a speech pathologist since 1995, primarily with pediatrics. After my practicum at RI Veterans Hospital, I worked per diem. Needless to say, it had been a while since I serviced adults.  What better way to learn about the most current treatment programs for Parkinson’s than at the national ASHA conference?  So, in between sessions on teletherapy, stuttering, and augmentative communication, I took courses in cognitive and voice therapy for people with Parkinson’s.  I also spent some time researching Big and Loud therapy (LSVT) in poster sessions and at booths.

The most informative course was the very last one that  I attended at ASHA on cognitive therapy.  While this course was geared towards cognitive group therapy in a nursing home setting, I started thinking about ways to modify the plans for my daddy.  To summarize the ASHA session, the presenters discussed functional lesson plans that incorporated conversations about recent and past historical events.  The purpose was to help with memory and retrieval skills and facilitate making connections with personal accounts. 

Amazon Alexa

It dawned on me that my daddy and I could use our Amazon Alexa to inquire about historical events by asking: “Alexa, what happened on this day in history?”  You can even further probe with a follow-up question: “Alexa, what else happened on this day in history?”  The plan has been for each of us to ask our respective Alexa’s this information and then I call Pops first thing in the morning to review the material. Later in the day, after completing my treatment sessions in Illinois, I call Pops in Rhode Island and ask him to recall 1-2 historical events we discussed that morning. When possible, I try to include personal perspectives to assist in recall.  

This daily interaction supports goals like clear commands and increasing vocal volume. Talking with my dad lifts his mood. Since starting this interaction, my dad’s tone has improved. I hear glimpses of the man I’ve always loved.

Nanette Cote in a limo with Parents on her Wedding Day

Going with the Flow

On some days, I assess conversations, especially if he skips meals, resulting in breathy voice and memory issues. Those days, language cues aren’t effective, so I just review the information again. He recalls more detail when he listens to Alexa’s recount. We accept it’s okay to listen multiple times or take notes. I periodically remind him that it’s not about recalling, but what he taught me growing up, avoiding making him sad. Be kind to loved ones whenever possible, avoiding regrets about not showing care when you had the chance.

Cherish Simple Moments with a Smile

Connecting through Blogging

I love blogging for networking, learning, and creative energy from peers across the United States. Their passion is assuredly contagious and their lesson plans have given me the ability to become a better therapist. My therapy approach is fun and functional, ensuring kids enjoy learning communication and life skills. Handcrafted materials acquired from peers empower my therapy approach and enable me to wear multiple hats. Let’s explore my personal life.

My Work-Life Balance

Rocks balancing at the beach

Besides having this rewarding career for nearly three decades, I live a blessed life as a wife and mom in Naperville, Illinois.  I can honestly say that in all my years of practice, which I incidentally began as a speech-language assistant, I have never once questioned my career choice. I consider myself so lucky to be part of such a rewarding field.  

Working privately gives me the luxury to be an important part of my son’s life. Our days are busy and I’m sure I’m not alone in this type of lifestyle. I was under this misguided impression that as I got older, things would slow down a bit. I could tell you how important it is to “seize the day”, but I’m sure you already know that given the times we are living in now. Instead, I will share my realistic approach to this motto: Stop and smile.

Nanette Cote with her young son and Goofy at Disney World

Stop and Smile

One day, when my son was around 8 years old, as we hurried downstairs, I paused at intervals to smile at him, cherishing our brief connections. We carried on like that for years. Simple, right? I encourage you to find someone in your life to stop and smile with every so often. Think about it, it may only take a couple minutes a year to brighten someone’s days. 

In my journey as a therapist, I’ve found immense inspiration from fellow professionals across the U.S. Their creativity and dedication fuel my practice. With a fun and functional therapy approach, I aim to make learning enjoyable for children. While I wear many hats in my professional life, my roles as a wife and mom bring me the greatest joy. Privately practicing allows me to cherish moments with my son, underscoring the importance of seizing each day. One simple yet profound lesson I’ve learned is the power of stopping to share a smile. Cherishing those brief connections enriches our lives immeasurably. So, let’s all take a moment to spread a little brightness wherever we go.

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